What other people think of me....

Is none of my business.

That is one of the hardest mantras for me to remember yet it is very simple to understand.  I cannot control what other people choose to believe or think about me.  That is actually one of the amazing things about life - to come to your own conclusions on how you feel about a circumstance, a person, a tv show.  Everyone has their own thought process.  It doesn't mean what they think or choose to think is wrong or right - but it belongs to them.

Can it be hurtful? Yes - especially when you seem to see so very clearly what they do not.  They however feel it is the other way around.  Does it matter? It does not and if it does there is still very little you can do to change a mind that has already been made up.

Acceptance is the key (so I have been told).  Accept that no matter what you have done, choose to do, have thought about doing and have said that there are just some people out there who will never understand who you are and have already made up their mind about you.  They are entitled to that thought...just like you are also entitled to believe that some of those very people are idiots who should live their own lives.

If it ends today...

If it all ended today could you look yourself in the mirror and say that up until this point you have been the best you possible?  What is your version of being the best you possible?

I can honestly say yes I can.  My best version of me is being someone who can acknowledge past wrongs and choices even though they can't be changed.  Trying to learn along the way and forgiving myself my errors. Giving myself patience and understanding, the same amount I would give a friend or family member.  Trying my best not to pass judgment, especially when I am angry or hurt, whether for myself or someone I love. Not always easy when you see someone you love being hurt, sometimes downright impossible. 

We have all been on either side of the coin.  Don't presume to know someones thought process or reasoning - just know that is what is working for them right now.  Live your life.  Own what is yours. Accept accountability for your actions and let others do the same.