Random Ish & Other Nonsense
When you often find yourself laughing at things you shouldn't.
Monday, October 20, 2014
Brave and Courageous...
I got married, picked up and relocated - something I could have never imagined myself doing. I was never going to remarry or leave the city and people I loved - but I did. This is what I have learned is part of being a military spouse. I think about the families who have been doing this for years and am in utter awe of them. I struggle with the adjustment of a city life where everything was at my finger tips to having to drive to do just about everything (especially when driving was not something I did and in fact feared - still do at times - although having a 90 minute commute to and from work has helped to subside that fear).
You don't know how brave or courageous you are until you have no choice but to be both.
I look at my 16 year old in amazement as he started as a junior in a new high school, in a new state and didn't blink. I would have been sick to my stomach - and in fact was terrified for him on his first day.
My husband is a pro at all this and takes it in stride. He has calmed my nerves and his steadfast support has really helped with the entire transition.
Some people may not see any of this as a big deal but for me it was huge. I am a creature of habit and breaking out of all that I was use to was terrifying. It is interesting how other people react to the changes you as an individual are experiencing as well. I found myself on more than one occasion sitting with myself and saying "you are going to be fine." The what ifs wouldn't leave me alone. What if this wasn't the right choice, the right move, the right path? The little voice in my head kept saying why is it about right or wrong? Why not just life challenges and experiences? Thankfully, I knew enough about myself to know that I had to step out of my comfort zone and live life as it was meant to be lived. To challenge myself and take a chance on the unknown. How will you know if you don't try? So try I did. I have good days and lonely days. I miss what was comfortable but try to give myself credit for being courageous – I have always been the type to minimize my accomplishments but today I am going to say it. I was brave and courageous. I had to let go of people, places and things to take this step and I did and little by little one day, one step and one moment at a time I am living this life that has been gifted to me.
Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Overwhelmed...
Ok, now back to life.
Wednesday, March 5, 2014
Change...
Chrissy talked about stretching yourself out of your comfort zone and allowing growth to happen. She talked about taking responsibility of your career (and your life). If only she knew that in a few months I will be embarking on one of the greatest adventures of my life.
Here are some of the things that I carried with me when I walked out the class:
1. It is about progress not perfection - this has always been one of my favorites - give yourself credit for what you have accomplished - don't minimize because it wasn't done to perfection [perfection is overrated].
2. Having a breakdown can be a window to a breakthrough - love this. It means next time I lock myself in the bathroom crying I can not just focus on the emotional but also look to see what I can learn about me.
3. Begin with the End in Mind - S. Covey. - See yourself where you want to be and figure out how to get there. Not getting there isn't an option.
4. Recognize your value - Choose to see the value in what you do and who you are.
Chrissy offers a lot of inspiration, wisdom and thought provoking words, really glad I had an opportunity to hear them.
Sunday, January 19, 2014
Life isn't Rose Garden....
There have been a lot of changes going on in my life and there are still more to come. I am excited, happy, scared, worried and alive.
My life isn't just a garden of roses. It also has lilies, daisies, chrysanthemums (yeah I had to google that) as well as thorns and weeds. All and all it is my garden with a variety good and difficult areas.
I never quite understood the type of person who enjoys when someone fails or waits for the moment when someone is down to say "I saw that coming" or "I told you so." Truthfully, I am probably guilty of saying that at times. How fucked up of me - time for some self reflection on why.
I am comfortable and content with where I am right now. I am still on my learning path and I don't expect it to always be smooth but at least I know I accept where I am, what happens and the work I am doing to better myself as a person, mom, daughter, friend, sister and woman. It is about progress not perfection and I know I have made mistakes and will continue to do so. I can go to sleep accepting accountability for them.
Don't you hate when you are so busy looking around at what is going on around you that you don't even know you stepped in shit? Maybe you should go clean off your shoes, then again, maybe you are comfortable standing in shit.
Tuesday, September 24, 2013
Believe in your dreams...
Thursday, September 12, 2013
Here is your list of required school supplies.....
Loose-leaf paper
Composition Notebooks
Subject Dividers
Folder
Pens & Pencils
Pencil Sharpner
Pencil Case
And every year I see the same items not being used. My kid never has the pens I bought but always ones he finds in class. The case is usually found mid-school year under the bed - with the unused pencil sharpener. Last year's composition notebooks are only half filled. Subject dividers are not used because he has 5 different composition notebooks and has a tendency to shove the sheets in any available folder - no matter what it is labeled.
Then my kid wonders why I just cut out the first half of last year's English composition notebook to use this year. Went through all the old binders and accumulated a stack of unused loose-leaf paper….Staples was charging $5 for a 500 sheet pack….Oh hell no.
"Damn ma – you have me going in as a sophomore like this?"
He is lucky I don't send him in with a tablet and chalk or a bucket of dirt and a stick.
Go earn that scholarship baby!
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
Not everyone likes broccoli...
Keep an open mind to those around you. If you choose not to do something give someone else that same right. Let them choose.
Some children like to read others like to draw. Do we tell the one who draws that they should draw less and read more because it is better for them?
The fact is I love broccoli and that is what I choose to eat. Kudos to you on your fondness for celery - I promise if I see you munching on a stalk I won't say ewwww that is disgusting (unless you dipped it in shit - in which case I may say it in my head, turn away and possibly gag). I may even be open to a suggestion you have on how celery can be incorporated into different meals (I will eat it if it's in soup) but please don't constantly reiterate to me how much better celery is for me than broccoli.
Friday, July 19, 2013
What motivates you...
I look at my home and see a wreck. I want it to be clean but I don't feel motivated to clean it....unless someone calls and announces they will be there in 15 minutes - at this point every closet becomes a junk refuge.
I get these brief (like a blink) spurts of motivation. I get an idea and I want to make it happen...but I want it to happen like now not so much later. With that said I have a great Movie pitch....so anyone from let's say Happy Madison Productions or some other production is interested shoot me a message. Oh hell I might as well get it all out there. I also have an idea for an animated short, which can lead to something long term - I promise this is better than my idea for a camel toe guard - although I still stand by the need for the elimination of camel toe, hoof foot & ball toe.
Point is I am currently in the middle of my motivational blink. I am taking steps and reaching for more. Who's with me?
Monday, June 10, 2013
Control = Stress
“You must learn to let go. Release the stress.
You were never in control anyway.”
― Steve Maraboli
Wednesday, May 29, 2013
Appreciation vs. Gratitude
Have you ever watched the face of someone you unexpectedly helped? It seems like a combination of relief, humility and appreciation. Be grateful that you are in a position to help. To listen...to do whatever you can to assist a person's needs.
On my way to work today I saw an elderly couple. It was humbling that the husband and wife were struggling to get her walker on the sidewalk. I was running late (actually writing this as I wait for the train knowing it will be a late mark against me but such is my life..I digress) but without hesitation went there and assisted her keep her balance with one hand while with my other hand helped lift the walker on the sidewalk. They both kept saying thank you. I just smiled and told them to enjoy their day. I walked away thinking thank you...thank you for reminding me of all I have to be grateful for and for the smile and light in your eyes.
God willing we will all be there someday. Offer someone some unexpected help and even if you don't see appreciation feel gratitude for being able to make that offer and when someone offers you help unexpected or not - be appreciative - because it was their choice to do so.
Tuesday, May 7, 2013
A 20 is a 20...
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
What other people think of me....
That is one of the hardest mantras for me to remember yet it is very simple to understand. I cannot control what other people choose to believe or think about me. That is actually one of the amazing things about life - to come to your own conclusions on how you feel about a circumstance, a person, a tv show. Everyone has their own thought process. It doesn't mean what they think or choose to think is wrong or right - but it belongs to them.
Can it be hurtful? Yes - especially when you seem to see so very clearly what they do not. They however feel it is the other way around. Does it matter? It does not and if it does there is still very little you can do to change a mind that has already been made up.
Acceptance is the key (so I have been told). Accept that no matter what you have done, choose to do, have thought about doing and have said that there are just some people out there who will never understand who you are and have already made up their mind about you. They are entitled to that thought...just like you are also entitled to believe that some of those very people are idiots who should live their own lives.
Friday, April 5, 2013
If it ends today...
If it all ended today could you look yourself in the mirror and say that up until this point you have been the best you possible? What is your version of being the best you possible?
I can honestly say yes I can. My best version of me is being someone who can acknowledge past wrongs and choices even though they can't be changed. Trying to learn along the way and forgiving myself my errors. Giving myself patience and understanding, the same amount I would give a friend or family member. Trying my best not to pass judgment, especially when I am angry or hurt, whether for myself or someone I love. Not always easy when you see someone you love being hurt, sometimes downright impossible.
We have all been on either side of the coin. Don't presume to know someones thought process or reasoning - just know that is what is working for them right now. Live your life. Own what is yours. Accept accountability for your actions and let others do the same.
Wednesday, February 27, 2013
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Sunday, February 10, 2013
Insight....
Monday, January 28, 2013
Life Soup...
[insert thought bubble] - Yeah, that was me. I went through that and came out.
Sometimes I came out limping, others crawling and on rare occasion I ran the fuck out (those who know me know I don't run unless there is a major sale or I have to go to the bathroom). The point is a came out. Survived times I thought I couldn't possibly have the strength to endure (thank you God for only giving me what I can handle).
Those experiences were spices in this big pot of soup called "My Life." Once the spice is added it can't be removed - you can try to dilute it by adding more of another spice to hide the flavor or to reduce its potency but the spice is still in there and you have to make the best of it. People will come and say "I don't know why you added that spice because I don't like it." My response can only be "this is My Life Soup not Your Life Soup." This is the way I was taught to make it and I can't really start from scratch again because there are some spices that I just know I will always use - whether someone else likes them or not - because it's My Life Soup - and the choice is yours as to whether or not you want to share it with me.
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
Sorry I am late (fail)......
I was up late watching porn.
I couldn't find my dealer.
I was out until 4 am on a bender.
I thought the judge was going to see me earlier.
Feel free to share some of your own.
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
Happy Holidays, Seasons Greetings & all that Jazz...
Here is my year at a glance in no particular order (my memory is sketchy so bare with me).
I self published my book Random Ish & Other Nonsense - If you haven't read it put it on your to do list.
I experienced the dating scene online - don't ask.
I celebrated another Birthday - thank you Lord.
I met a guy and I am in love - maybe...
My youngest child started High School
I reflected on my life and continued to work on me.
I laughed
I cried
I got pissed off and occasionally pissed on
I had a leak in my home and had to replace part of the floor
Dealt with that bitch Sandy
My relationship with family and friends strengthened
My relationship with other family and friends distanced
I made mistakes and owned up to them (most of them)
As the year is comes to an end and I realize that although I haven't always felt it I have been extremely fortunate and although my faith continues to struggle I continue to search for hope in the God of my understanding.
My heart and prayers go out to people who have lost loved ones or endured tragedies in 2012, as well as those who have managed to get up each day and put one foot in front of the other when all you really wanted to do was crawl under a rock or give up on life - kudos to you.
May 2013 bring you a peace, strength and courage within yourself and when possible may you share it with those around you who can't find their own.
Sissy
Monday, December 10, 2012
Holiday 10 for 10 and under...
10. Poofy socks
9. Picture Frame
8. Fake Pashmina
7. Superhero Mug
6. Costume Jewelry
5. Calendar
4. Ornament
3. Framed Photo
2. Wine Stopper
1. Random Ish and Other Nonsense the Book